Not quite a "food," whipped cream still makes our list due to its many sensual possibilities. Use it as a body paint or as a light and fluffy extra for fruit and cream.
10. Reader Idea: The Human Sundae
My boyfriend and I had been speaking about doing this for a while, but I didn't know when we would do it. One day I went over to his house, and when he opened the door, all of the lights were out and there were candles lit. He took my hand and led me to the shower, where he bathed me. He dried me off and led me to the bed. He had bought white sheets for the occasion. Surrounding the bed were cut up strawberries, bananas, ice cream, hot fudge, grapes, and whipped cream. He laid me down and turned me into a human sundae! It was wonderful. Then it was my turn...of course you know what happens next. It was a night I will never forget!
Friday, August 6, 2010
Top 10 Sensual Foods
Top 10 Sensual Foods
Grapes made our top ten list for being synonymous with regally lying about and being hand fed. The idea of feeding your lover and letting your fingers linger a little longer than necessary is a vivid erotic sensation.
Reader Idea: Fruit Dance
Here's an idea for when your wonderful partner feels like he has seen it all. Put on your sexiest nightie (see-thru is great) and cover it up with a robe. Sit your man in a chair in the middle of the room and have him relax. Leave the room and get rid of the robe. Put some soft music on, and dance slowly into the room with a bowl of grapes. Dance right up to your lover and tilt their head back with your hand. Proceed to feed them grapes and you dance in a circle around them.I'm pretty sure you won't make it through all the grapes.
Top 10 Sensual Foods
Widely known for it's aphrodisiac qualities, the avocado has quite the reputation as being a sensual fruit. Maybe it's the shape or the way it grows on trees (Mayans referred to the tree as a testicle tree). Whatever the reason, the avocado is an indulgent food that can be prepared and displayed quite sensually, and for that it makes it onto our top ten.
Top 10 Sensual Foods
Take one look at a banana and it's easy to see why it's on our top ten. The banana's phallic shape provides ample opportunity to entice your man with a little foreplay action. The more creative you are with your displays, the less likely he'll be able to keep his hands off of you.
Top 10 Sensual Foods
"Champagne is just a drink that tastes better when shared among two lovers." --Source Unknown
Chanpagne is not an actual food, but it's certainly deserving of a spot in our top ten for its strong associations with sex and romance. Champagne is the perfect companion for all of life's special events, so its inclusion as a bedroom aphrodisiac should be of no surprise. Best of all, you can serve it up any way you desire...pour it over your partner's body, soak fruit in it, freeze as champagne ice cubes...the possibilities go on and on.
Top 10 Sensual Foods
5. Sushi
"Naked sushi" is a new culinary experience first introduced in Japan. In Japan, it's called nyotaimori, meaning "female body presentation." There are currently only a few US cities that offer this delicious adventure - Los Angeles, New York and Chicago and Minneapolis. However, preparing an at-home version is why sushi made our list. While one partner lays naked, the other prepares and eats the sushi directly on their naked partner's body. It can make for quite the erotic experience.
Reader Idea: Sushi for Two
My man's favorite food is sushi, but it is pretty expensive, so we can't go out for it that often. My solution - I know how to make it, and I taught him so we can do it together! I went to the Asian grocery store and bought all the ingredients we would need, along with sake, edamame, miso soup, and Asian plates and such. I came home and did all the cutting up and prep work (made the rice, etc.) and right before he came over, went and changed into my kimono and put some Japanese music on the stereo. I greeted him at the door with a bow and greeted him in Japanese - "Konnichiwa." I had also cleared everything out of the living room except the coffee table and a rug, so we could sit on the floor Japanese-style to eat. He was really surprised and he loved it! I taught him how to roll sushi and make nigiri (he likes to cook), and we got really creative with our ingredient combinations. It was so much fun! When we finally got to eat, I had him sit down, and I did the whole Geisha thing - bringing out the courses, pouring his sake, etc. Talk about a good time! Now, instead of wanting to go out for sushi, he wants to stay in!
Top 10 Sensual Foods
Oysters have long been considered a predominant player in the sensual food arena, more than likely due to their resemblance to sexual anatomy. However, there is some validity to their aphrodisiac claim. Oysters are loaded with zinc, which is a key ingredient for testosterone production. Next time you want to step up your sensual encounter, make sure to include oysters on the menu!
Top 10 Sensual Foods
Over the years, strawberries have become synonymous with romance. Certainly no sensual food list is complete without the sweet and juicy strawberry. In fact, you'd be hard pressed to find a romantic evening that doesn't include this sensual treat. Dipped in chocolate, cream, wine or enjoyed in it's natural state, the strawberry is without a doubt an essential ingredient for a sensual temptation.
Reader Idea: Dozen Flavored Strawberries
Two days before Valentine’s Day, I went and brought strawberries and peach flavored Zinfandel. I melted some chocolate and covered half the strawberries with it. I soaked the other half in the Zinfandel. When my boyfriend came over for Valentine's Day, I fed him the strawberries while we cuddled and watched old romantic movies.
--submitted by Stephanie
Top 10 Sensual Foods
Rich, decadent chocolate is an irresistible aphrodisiac. Truly considered a romantic treat, chocolate evokes thoughts of delicious, fulfilling experiences. Since it comes in many forms from liquid to solid, your options for using chocolate as a sensual prop are only limited by your creativity.
Reader Idea: Chocolate Bath Bliss
I am planning a special chocolate afternoon for my husband. We both love chocolate, and we both love the bathtub! I am leaving an "invitation" for him in his favorite carton of chocolate ice cream. Then, I will leave a trail of Hershey kisses leading to the bathtub. I'll be waiting there for him in a chocolate bubble bath surrounded by flickering chocolate candles, chocolate syrup for play, chocolate beer, and chocolate body wash. After our fun in the tub, I will massage him with Philosophy’s Marshmallow Soufflé Cream on our "bed" of warm chocolate-colored towels!
--submitted by Mrs. McHott
Top 10 Sensual Foods
Pasta will always have a special place in a romantic's heart. Just recall what is probably considered the sweetest onscreen kiss, the one shared between Lady and the Tramp while eating their plate of spaghetti, and you'll understand all the romantic possibilities. Why not recreate a little Italian romance at home?
Reader Idea: No Chocolate Needed
We all think about baths and candles and things like that. Well let me tell you what, after years together I have found what really makes my baby smile. We have three children, a huge house, and our own business. The best thing I can do is make sure the house is really clean, send all the kids off for the night with friends, make a nice dinner like a roast or some fresh pasta, set the table and sit with him. When he/she is your best friend, a night like that is just about the best thing you can have. Later, just relax together without interruption or other cares. Just like when you were dating!
--submitted by Anonymous
Lucky In Love
Celebrate St. Patrick’s Day by leaving life’s stresses behind for a day of festivity. Because the anniversary of Saint Patrick’s death is March 17th, during the Catholic tradition of Lent, the celebration has a unique energy in Ireland, where Catholicism is a predominant religion. The prohibitions of Lent (fasting, usually food) are waived and the public gathers for a feast and parade. They celebrate life with their friends and family, sharing fond memories and just loving life together. This year, make St. Patrick’s Day another holiday to count your lucky stars and celebrate your love. Here are five special ways to let your man know you care.
Four-Leaf Clover Memory Collage
Photos are the classic way to bring back fond memories and say, “I love you.” One of our favorite gift ideas is the Four-Leaf Clover Memory Collage. It is a creative way to display photos and memorabilia for the one you love. Here are the simplified instructions: Make a scrapbook page (or scrapbook style) shaped like a four-leaf clover and find photos that will fit into the leaves. Get creative with different shades and patterns of green, stencils, cut-out frames, words, poems and memorabilia to make it a gift he will cherish. Insert it into a love journal or couples’ scrapbook, put it behind glass, or give it as-is to hang like a poster.
I’m So Lucky Box
Over time, it is easy to forget to recognize your love for their special qualities and the wonderful things they do. You can be sure not to let the good things go unmentioned any longer by making them a sweet homemade gift called the “I’m So Lucky Box.” The idea is to set up a physical reminder for yourself to recognize his qualities and good works. The box (or envelope, jar, or even a list stuck on the refrigerator) is in plain view and accessible to you both all of the time. Keep a pencil nearby so that it doesn’t take any effort at all to write a short note to them anytime, day or night. Your partner will be thrilled to see an ongoing collection of praises and you can be sure that he really knows why you are so lucky to be in love with him.
Lucky Stickies
Unlike the Lucky Box, the Lucky Stickies is a one day celebration instead of an ongoing project. It is a silly and romantic way to douse your partner with compliments. All you need is a stack of post-it notes or stickers (clover ones would be cute). You are going to stick one on everything that reminds you how lucky you are in love. You can do your sticking while he’s not around and then take him on a tour of stickies, or have him walk with you as you post them. Either way, explain each one to him in detail, telling him of fond memories, special things about him or your life together, the wonderful little things he does to show you love, and things that symbolize his character. Finish up by sticking them all over him, wherever you like, and telling him how lucky you are that he has those eyes, that hair, those pecs, etc.
Here are some ideas to get you started:
- On the hood of your car – because he always makes sure it’s running well.
- On the laundry basket – because he always picks up his dirty clothes.
- On your shoulder – because he kisses you there.
- On your ring – because he gave it you with a promise.
- On the door – because he comes home to you every day.
- On the seat of his pants – because he’s got the bum you can’t get enough of.
- On his vitamin bottle – because he takes good care of himself.
- On your child’s toy – because he loves your children.
- On his pillow – because it smells of him.
- On your foot – because he rubs them at night.
- On the shower wall – because of the hot sex he has with you in the shower.
Magazine Love
Magazine Love is a creative way to say how much you care without making or buying anything (other than a magazine if you don’t have one). Cuddle up with your love and a magazine you like. Scan the pages for anything that reminds you of your partner in any way and go with it. When I did this with my guy, I found a travel page with an airplane insignia on it and told him that I love the way he talks about being a pilot, how it is beautiful to see his face light up with excitement. I saw an ad for a bed and it reminded me of when we went bed shopping as newlyweds to get a bed big enough for the two of us and the little ones, and how we both loved the idea of a “family bed.” I spotted an article on ingredients in facial cleansers and told him how much I loved his soft smooth skin and that it wasn’t fair that he didn’t have to do anything but wash it with bar soap to get it looking like that. There were things on almost any page that I could point out and the fun thing about it was that some of the things I said were sweet and others were silly. We had fun and he couldn’t get enough of my doting.
Top 5 Reader Ideas for Spring Romance
You’ve been cooped all winter, but the ice is melting now and it's time to stretch your legs. Each season offers unique opportunities for romance. Follow nature’s lead and allow the rejuvenating spring breeze to breathe fresh energy into your relationship. Spring is about the turning of soil and the budding of new life.
Spring is the perfect time to get outside and do the things you haven't done in the months before facing the summer heat. Take afternoon walks hand-in-hand, pick wildflowers for a bouquet, or enjoy fresh fruit from a street market. Bring your lover to a beach, lake, or river for an exiting beginning to a season of al fresco fun. Below are our top six reader ideas on how to spend spring days with your lover.
1. Street Market Stroll
This year for Valentine's Day, I took my boyfriend to Seattle for a romantic weekend for two. My travel agent called me with info about a great vacation package that included airline tickets and two nights in a premiere hotel. Seattle is a great city for a romantic weekend. Most of the things that would interest visitors are downtown within walking distance of the hotel, so there's no need to hassle with car rentals. We spent the weekend strolling through the Pike's Street Market hand-in-hand and doing some terrific big-city shopping downtown. When he asked why I would give him such an extravagant gift, I told him the truth. I simply wanted to spend a whole weekend with him with no interruptions from the phone or friends and family just dropping in without warning. To me, it was a small price to pay for some "us" time. It was also a turning point in our relationship, and we are now shopping for our first home together. The wedding is set for next summer!
--submitted by Anonymous
2. Lover's Lane
I was with my girlfriend and on the spur of the moment we decided to go out. We drove a little ways into the country and parked on the side of the road. We sat in the back of my car wrapped in a blanket and shared our most intimates thoughts and feelings while looking at the stars and the moon. It was very romantic! When we got home, we both felt really wonderful.
--submitted by Loverboy
3. A Horseback Ride and Picnic
My boyfriend and I had only been together for a few months, but we both knew that there was a great spark between us. I wanted to do something special for him that would be unforgettable. So, I kidnapped my boyfriend on his birthday and took him on a horseback ride through the mountains at sunset. It could not have been more amazing and romantic! After the horseback ride, I blindfolded him and led him to the Italian picnic I'd had my friends set up for us. There were candles and flowers around the blanket, and the meal included a bottle of wine and chocolate-covered strawberries for dessert. Everything went perfectly, and it turned out to be the best birthday ever!
--submitted by Lex
4. Take a Boat Ride
On their one year anniversary, my friend's boyfriend picked her up in a limo and drove her around the city before taking her to a pier and onto a yacht he'd rented. The crew served them a four-course dinner with the NYC skyline as the backdrop. She told me that it was the most romantic thing anyone had ever done for her. She was, quite literally, floating.
--submitted by Annie
5. Climb a Tree
We have a state park near where we live that's full of big trees. On nice days, it's always fun to go up and sit in the branches of a big, old tree and watch the sun set below the cliffs together.
--submitted by Kristen
Give them that seasonal love bug early this year by taking your lover on an adventure that will give them high expectations for the months to follow. Don’t let the beauty of Spring pass you by!
Date Night: Plan Your Dream Home
When you first fall in love, a good portion of the "get to know you" phase is spent together talking about your future and your goals and dreams. When you're in the love "bubble," everything seems possible and the opportunities appear endless. As you develop into a longer-term relationship, however, sometimes the wishful thinking loses it's spark. Recapture that feeling of "anything is possible" with a fun date night activity that taps into each of your creative abilities and imaginations. This date night can be done in one night as a fun "what-if" scenario, or you can give it real consideration and turn it into a couples' hobby-type project.
What you'll need:
Graph paper and pencils for drawing out your home
A few "Dream Home" style magazines for inspiration
A computer with internet access to make use of the tools listed below
Poster board, scissors, and a glue stick.
The Activity: Dream Home Collage
Cement the image of your dream home as a real possibility by creating a collage board. All dreams have their start with a little inspiration. By using your magazines and the websites listed below you should find the perfect inspiration to begin crafting your dream dwelling. To create the actual collage, settle on a final floor plan and attach it to the middle of your posterboard. Give your collage board a title and write it across the top. Then attach any pictures that are part of your dream home inspiration. For instance, a picture of a home with the front garden you want or a picture of a piece of furniture that you have to have. When you're done, put it up somewhere you can both see it and make changes as desired.
Tools & Resources
Dream Home Source
This is the ultimate house plans site! You can select to view home plans from anything to a luxury lakefront home to a mountain ranch home. If you want to take action on making your dream home a reality, they have the tools for that too.
Better Homes and Gardens House Plans
A great collection of homes provided by Better Homes and Gardens. Most plans have an actual picture of the completed home and some even include pictures of the interior rooms.
Ikea Home Planners
If planning an entire home is too big of a project, or you want to give a more in-depth focus to a certain part of your home try one of these Ikea Home Planners.
Bhg.com Arrange A Room
If after planning your dream home you're left wanting when you look at your current home, try bhg.com's arrange-a-room program to give your home new life.
Tried this date night? How did it go? Share your dream home ideas and thoughts below!
Date Night: Romance at the Zoo
What makes the zoo such a great date spot? Perhaps it’s the wide variety of entertainment, the relaxing ambiance, the abundance of conversation pieces, and the plenty of opportunities for intimate moments. Have a day full of fun and romance with the one you love on your arm.
Romance in the Zoo
- Hold hands as you walk through the exhibits.
- Sneak a kiss in the romantic glow of an underground aquarium.
- Count how many animal couples “do it” right in front of you!
- Take photos of each other imitating the animals you pose next to.
- Share childhood zoo memories as you ride the train or trolley through the zoo.
- Find out your date’s favorite zoo animals and why. It’s a great way to get insight into their values.
- Take frequent breaks to sit and enjoy the scene and snuggle up.
- Watch one of the special shows while sipping on a glass of wine or cool lemonade.
- Kiss in the aviary or butterfly sanctuary while they flutter all around you.
- Find a comfy spot in the shade to sit and watch some of the more animated species like chimpanzees, otters, penguins and bears, imagining what they might be thinking.
- Catch the special shows they have all around the zoo.
- Have a picnic. Packing a full picnic around the zoo might not be so much fun, but packing a light snack or purchasing lunch from one of the many dining venues around the zoo.
- Sport funny zoo animal visors.
- Buy each other sweet zoo souvenirs.
- Get sweet treats like ice-cream, snow cones, sweet fresh pretzels or doughnuts to snack on while you tour the zoo.
- Take a nice relaxing rest on a grassy knoll.
Tips
- Check the zoo website for special events like adults only days or holiday special events.
- If the zoo is a drive for you, make a weekend out of it. Search online for tourist packages with discount hotel stays and passes for multiple attractions.
- Pack a “zoo bag” small enough so that it isn’t an inconvenience, but large enough to carry the essentials: sun block, bottled water and a camera
5 Perfect First Date Outfits
These five style bloggers are no strangers to picking out the perfect outfit; they’ve all documented their inspiring ensembles on their respective blogs and won a loyal following of fans in the process. Now they’re helping us tackle one of life’s great dilemmas: what to wear on a first date!
Location: Los Angeles, CA
Website: http://www.lovemaegan.com
What she’s wearing:
Dress: Ali Ro (Gilt.com - see invite on her blog)
Shoes: Calvin Klein (Bloomingdales)
Earrings: Vintage (stolen from her mom)
Bag: Deux Lux (Urban Outfitters)
Why it’s her perfect first date outfit:
“There’s one thing I know about first dates and that is that they are awkward and uncomfortable so I think it’s best to wear something that is the exact opposite of that. You don’t want to be yanking a strapless top up or adjusting a belt or making sure a skirt is in place.
You want to be able to focus your attention on your date and not yourself. Speaking of your date, most boys/men aren’t necessarily into fashion. They like it clean and simple and pretty and sexy. I think this is the perfect first date outfit because while the dress is sexy it doesn’t scream “I’m open for business!” - if ya know what I mean. If you’re going to show some leg, keep the cleavage at bay - and vice versa. You don’t want to give away the farm all on the first date. You want him to want more… if you like him that is.”
Name: Emily Schuman Location: Los Angeles, CA
Website: http://cupcakesandcashmere.com
What she’s wearing:
Blazer: Vintage (flea market)
Tank: J.Crew
Pearl necklace: Forever 21
Handmade shark tooth necklace: From her Etsy shop
Jeans: 7 For All Mankind
Shoes: Seychelles
Clutch: Vintage (flea market).
Why it’s her perfect first date outfit:
“I think my look is put together and casual but the layered necklaces and metallic heels add a flirty touch.”
Name: Jessica Schroeder Location: Brooklyn, NY
Website: http://whatiwore.tumblr.com
What she’s wearing:
Jacket: Vintage and from a thrift store
Tank: Target
Skirt: Target
Sunglasses: Urban Outfitters
Shoes: Simply Vera by Vera Wang (Kohl’s)
Why it’s her perfect first date outfit:
“On a first date I want to feel confident, cute, girly and tall. But most importantly I want to feel like myself, which is why this outfit is a perfect first date look. To avoid being too sexy, I like to pick between showing more arms/collarbone and some legs. I like the playfulness of this skirt and how it lets the jacket really shine. The colors, beading and cut of the jacket all send a message to my date that I’m easy going and ready to have fun. This outfit also works for the office (with flats) and moves easily into cocktail hour.”
Name: Rebecca Roe, The Clothes Horse Location: Fort Lewis, WA
Website: http://theclothes.blogspot.com
What she’s wearing:
Jacket: H&M
Dress: H&M
Shoes: From a shop she can’t remember in Japan
Necklace: Handmade by Rebecca
Why it’s her perfect first date outfit:
“This outfit is perfect for a first date because no matter the activity or location these are clothes I feel wonderfully comfortable in; nothing is brand new and I’m wearing my two favorite colors. The movement of this dress never fails to make me feel like dancing and first dates should always involve some sort of dancing…even if it is the secretive ‘happy dance’ at the end of the night.”
Name: Keiko Lynn Location: Brooklyn, NY
Websites: http://keikolynn.blogspot.com and http://www.postlapsaria.com
What she’s wearing:
Dirndl: Vintage
Blouse: Thrifted (and reconstructed by Keiko)
Belt: Thrifted
Shoes: Jeffrey Campbell
Why it’s her perfect first date outfit:
“My ideal first date involves a hanging out in a park, complete with swing sets and possibly even a kite. The gingham in the dress makes me think of a classic picnic blanket, and the overall look is typical of my everyday outfits. I’d like the guy to get to know the real me, not an idealized version of myself. If I’m comfortable in what I’m wearing (and my surrounding environment), I’m more relaxed, and less prone to awkward small talk.”
Three Love Poems ANYONE Can Write
Couples are always on the lookout for new and fun ways to express their love for their partner. One creative outlet is through poetry. In fact, in frequent polls at Lovingyou.com, a love poem is often cited as the number one gift a person would like to receive from their partner. To many this could be considered an arduous challenge. The good news is it doesn't have to be. With a few tools and little bit of creativity you can be on your way to wooing your partner's heart through their poetic heartstrings.
One of the easiest and quickest ways to write a poem is using a format called an acrostic. An acrostic poem is where every line starts with a letter of a word that is displayed vertically. For example:
In case you were in doubt that my
Love is not true, remember this
Only you can make me feel
Vulnerably, completely and
Entirely in love with
You
Only and always
Unconditionally you
Note that if you look at the first letter of each line, you will see "I love you" written vertically. This is an especially fun format when you use your names. For example, Jason Loves Julie, or My Love Teresa. You do not need to write sentences like in the example above. A simple word for each line is more than appropriate. To help, in the process, listed below are a few adjectives for each letter of the alphabet.
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Another fun and easy poetry format is a cinquain poem. Cinqains have five lines. Each line must contain a certain element. Here is the standard format.
Line 1: Title (noun) - 1 word
Line 2: Description - 2 words
Line 3: Action - 3 words
Line 4: Feeling (phrase) - 4 words
Line 5: Title (synonym for the title) - 1 word
An example cinqain:
Lover
Exquisite, divine
Need to touch
Wishing you were here
You
Cinqains are great when sent as a quick loving note in an email, at the end of a letter or hidden in a special place for your partner to find.
The last of our three poems is a personal favorite. There are so many ways to present this poem that every one you make will always feel individual and personal to your partner. What could this fun format be? A rebus love poem of course! You probably already know that a rebus is a message made out of pictures. When you create a rebus love poem, you make it mostly out of pictures. You can choose to draw images, use stickers or find free clip art online. You are only limited by your imagination. In fact, one creative way to write a rebus love poem is with miniature (or full size for a BIG impression) candy bars. Here is an example rebus poem.
5 Tips for Phone Sex Newbies
Miles might separate you, but your intimacy need not suffer. Here’s how to use phone sex to keep your long distance relationship spicy and hot - even if you’ve never done it before!
Maintain your intimacy
Rather than let your relationship go sour during weeks or months of separation, make it your mission to keep it sizzling. Mix a little phone sex play into the mix to invigorate your lackluster telephone conversations. When you’re apart, phone sex is the next best thing until you can dive into the real thing.
According to Tina B. Tessina, PhD, (aka “Dr. Romance”), psychotherapist and author of The Commuter Marriage: Keep Your Relationship Close While You’re Far Apart (Adams Media), phone sex is certainly a useful tool for couples in a long distance relationship as it keeps you both vividly recalling just how much you love and are aroused by each other.
“When you’re in a long distance relationship you need to keep it hot and not simply relax into just companionship only. Phone sex also makes the transition to the next time you are face to face easier,” says Dr. Tessina. “If you’ve learned to generate sexual feelings by voice only, you’ll get turned on easily when you’re in contact. It also keeps you from feeling so frustrated that you’re ultimately tempted to stray.”
Dr. Tessina offers these phone sex pointers for newbies:
1. Begin by telling your partner how much you enjoy sex with him or her.
“I can’t stop thinking about the last time we made love.” Then ask for a response: “Do you remember that? We were in the bedroom….”Follow that with some positive descriptions “Your skin was so wonderful to touch, and I got so turned on.”
Again, ask for a response, if one doesn’t come up right away ask, “What did you like most?” Then move to … “I’m getting turned on now, just talking about it, are you?”
2. Then go for a more detailed description.
“I can remember what it felt like to unbutton your (or my) shirt, knowing we were going to get closer together.”
“If you use the method I’ve suggested, working from a memory, the phone sex will be like your in-person sex — dirty-talking or not, just like the sex you have at home, ” says Dr. Tessina. “In fact, you should take care to make it as similar as possible, especially the first couple times. Once you’re both used to it, then experimentation can be fun — but not too soon, or you might upset your partner.
Five phone sex techniques couples can integrate into their long distance relationship
#1 Work from a memory of your sex when you are together, so it doesn’t feel strange.
#2 Don’t worry if it doesn’t go right the first time, just try again later. You’re just learning something new, and it may take a couple of tries.
#3 Be careful you’re not just doing it by yourself. That’s masturbating. Keep the conversation going back and forth by saying something, then asking how your partner feels about it. That keeps both of you involved and at similar places.
#4 Use your five senses. Talk to your partner about what you are seeing in your imagination, what you’re hearing, how you feel emotionally and physically, and what you remember about how sex with your partner tastes and smells,
#5 Everything you say needs to be positive. Talk about how much you love your partner, enjoy your partner, what feels good, what sounds good, how great you are feeling.
Top 10 Summer Romance Novels
Want some light, romantic reads this summer? Check out this summer selection, perfect for the beach!
All she wants is revenge…
New Orleans homicide detective Charlotte Caissie is dedicated to bringing down the crime boss responsible for her father’s murder. Using Jimmy Legere’s mysterious and irresistible right-hand man is a dangerous gamble, and not only due to his reputation as more monster than man. Because her feelings for Max Savoie are . . . complicated.
Then he risks his life to save hers…
Rescued from the swamps as a child, Max exists silently in Legere’s shadow, heeding only his voice - until Charlotte Caissie awakens his emotions and tests his loyalties. Stepping outside his cautious rules threatens more than just his heart. He could expose his darkest secret.
Now they’re both in over their heads.
Testing boundaries they weren’t meant to cross means facing the truth about who and what they are - and what they need from each other. If Max is the murderer she seeks, Charlotte could be his next victim. She can’t afford to trust any man. Good thing Max isn’t one.
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Risk No Secrets by Cindy Gerard
A deadly international mission reunites a sexy Black Ops, Inc. hero and his sizzling former love in Cindy Gerard’s seductive new romantic thriller.
A red-hot attraction
Twelve years of chasing bad guys didn’t erase beautiful Sophie Baylor from Wyatt Savage’s memory. If he had another chance, he’d never let her leave. So when she tracks him down from El Salvador and begs for help, he doesn’t ask questions-he just goes.
Starts with a terrifying threat
Sophie is grateful her daughter survived a kidnapping attempt, but she won’t forgive herself until the girl who was mistakenly abducted is safe. Wyatt is the only man brave enough to take on the mysterious terrorists behind the crime-and the one irresistible man she wishes she had never let go.
And unleashing and unforgettable adventure
Sophie knows Central America’s steamy jungles and sticky politics better than anyone. Yet she refuses to hide in fear. Then she becomes the enemy’s number one target. Wyatt lost her once, and he won’t lose her again-even if he has to fight, kill, or die to save her.
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A Lady Never Tells by Candace Camp
When Mary Bascombe’s stepfather tries to sell her and her sisters to the highest bidder after their mother’s death, she resolves to take drastic action. Although their British mother was estranged from her family, Mary decides the four will flee to London and take their place in society as granddaughters of the Earl of Stewkesbury.
Dashing Sir Royce Winslow doubts the honesty of the young women’s claim-despite their charms, they seem to be hiding something. His attraction to feisty Mary, however, is no ruse, so when the sisters are shipped off to Willowmere, the earl’s country estate, to acquire some polish, Royce is quick to join them. When an unknown villain attempts a kidnapping, Royce and Mary are thrown together as they confront the danger . . . and Royce learns that while high society may sing the praises of proper behavior, it is a most improper American who is winning his heart.
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Enemy Lover by Karin Harlow
When you have no alternative, then you call in L.O.S.T. Because with the Last Option Special Team, it’s do or die. . . .
It’s Jax Cassidy’s first mission for L.O.S.T.-one that will give the former cop who went rogue a chance to prove herself. Her assignment: gain the trust of assassin Marcus Cross . . . eliminate him . . . then take down Marcus’s mentor, Joseph Lazarus, a man with a bold eye on the White House. But the woman who’s known by her team for being a femme fatale succumbs to passion, only to discover Cross’s deadly secret. He’s a vampire, and Joseph Lazarus is his creator.
Left for dead by his platoon in the violent hills of Afghanistan, Special Ops sniper Marcus Cross was given a second chance at life. His newly heightened skills make him the perfect killing machine, and as Lazarus’s right-hand man, he’s quickly rising to the top of his dark empire, purging enemies with speed and precision. Only when dangerous beauty Jax Cassidy is sent to bring him in does he begin to question Lazarus’s motives and his own actions. But when Jax’s life is threatened by the one thing that can destroy them both, Marcus must make a
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In Shelter Cove by Barbara Freethy
A long-ago shipwreck off the California coast led the survivors to the haven they named Angel’s Bay. Their shared adversity brought fellowship and joy . . . but also unsuspected secrets. Acclaimed author Barbara Freethy returns to the town where angels still keep watch, with a compelling story of a young widow trying to find the truth and bring closure for her son and herself.
The theft of three priceless paintings sent Derek Kane to prison and destroyed the dreams of his wife, Brianna. When Derek unexpectedly dies just weeks before his release, Brianna returns to Angel’s Bay with her young son, determined to prove her husband’s innocence and find the missing paintings. Her efforts are stymied by Jason Marlow, the police officer who sent Derek to jail- betraying his former friend. And when unexpected passion flares between Brianna and Jason, she must choose between the past and the present, the guilty and the innocent, the truth and the lies. For nothing is what it seems….
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Silent Truth by Sherrilyn Kenyon and Diana Love
In the sizzling new adventure from New York Times bestselling authors Sherrilyn Kenyon and Dianna Love, a red-hot BAD boy teams up with a sexy television reporter on an explosive quest for revenge.
Tough-as-nails Bureau of American Defense agent Hunter Thornton-Payne is no stranger to uncomfortable top-secret missions, but tonight takes the cake. He just needs to stick out a stuffy charity fund-raiser long enough to find the ruthless assassin he’s hunted for four years. It’s a rogue operation, but Hunter’s got nothing to lose-until a beautiful brunette unexpectedly pulls him into her own dangerous agenda. Abbie Blanton will do anything to cure her mother’s mysterious illness. When a high-profile heiress is murdered as Abbie tries to blackmail her for clues, Abbie realizes she’s stumbled into an unforgiving conspiracy-and she’s the next target. Soon, she and Hunter discover an alarming connection and begin a treacherous battle against an evil enterprise that someone will go to terrifying lengths to keep hidden.
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Wicked Becomes You by Meredith Duran
She’s been burned not once but twice by London’s so-called gentlemen . . .
Gwen Maudsley is pretty enough to be popular, and plenty wealthy, too. But what she’s best known and loved for is being so very, very nice. When a cad jilts her at the altar-again-the scandal has her outraged friends calling for blood. Only Gwen has a different plan. If nice no longer works for her, then it’s time to learn to be naughty. Happily, she knows the perfect tutor-Alexander Ramsey, her late brother’s best friend and a notorious rogue.
So why won’t a confirmed scoundrel let her be as bad as she wants to be?
Unbeknownst to Gwen, Alex’s aloof demeanor veils his deepest unspoken desire. He has no wish to see her change, nor to tempt himself with her presence when his own secrets make any future between them impossible. But on a wild romp from Paris to the Riviera, their friendship gives way to something hotter, darker, and altogether more dangerous. With Alex’s past and Gwen’s newly unleashed wildness on a collision course, Gwen must convince Alex that his wickedest intentions are exactly what she needs.
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Can’t Teach an Old Demon New Tricks by Cara Lockwood
Get an east Texas girl good and mad, and there’s going to be hell to pay!
Rachel Farnsworth doesn’t believe in the paranormal - she can find plenty of evil forces right in Dogwood County, like the Mega-Mart that’s driving her family’s hardware store into the ground. Then there’s her own little hell-raiser-a rowdy toddler who can turn his birthday candles into a blazing inferno with just one breath. But when her marriage goes up in smoke, Rachel discovers her husband, Kevin, isn’t just a deadbeat, he’s also a demon (a sloth demon, no less, which explains why he never helped around the house) with a renegade bounty hunter - a fallen angel named Sam - chasing down a powerful secret Kevin has kept for a millennium or two. Sam’s downfall was a beautiful mortal woman . . . and now, the heavenly attraction zinging between them has down-to-earth Rachel believing in celestial magic. But will it be enough to save her and her son from the dark forces Kevin has unwittingly unleashed on Dogwood County?
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A Rogue of My Own by Johanna Lindsey
It was the chance of a lifetime. . . .
For Lady Rebecca Marshall, a whirlwind of excitement begins when she becomes a maid of honor at the court of Queen Victoria. But when Rebecca unknowingly steps into the rivalry between the Queen’s spymaster and a noblewoman who uses the maids as courtly spies, she is soon entangled in a web of deceit with the charming marquis Rupert St. John. The devastatingly handsome ne’er-do-well is the cousin of Raphael Locke, with whom Rebecca was once infatuated. . . . He’s also a secret agent of the crown who leads a double life. Certain that guileless Rebecca is spying on him, Rupert seduces her-then, forced to wed, he believes she has set a trap of the worst sort in order to marry into his powerful family! But as he comes to know Rebecca’s true heart, his vow of revenge and infidelity becomes a desire to share many passionate nights-only with his beautiful wife.
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Flirting with Forever by Gwyn Cready
In RITA® Award-winning author Gwyn Cready’s fun and sexy new time-travel adventure, an ambitious writer discovers that bad-boy painters are as timeless-and irresistible-as their art. . .
Art historian Campbell Stratford is about to make a name for herself with her scandalously sexy tell-all “fictographies” of famous seventeenth-century artists, but she’s more intimately familiar with her subjects than her eager readers can imagine. Thanks to a time portal she accidentally discovered, she has caused quite a stir in the Great Beyond. To save their reputations, the Guild protecting dead artists convinces playboy Peter Lely, portraitist to the king, to sabotage Cam’s latest project. A few hours posing on Sir Peter’s modeling chaise leads to a night of seductive passion-then Cam returns home and discovers his betrayal. But before she can turn her angry pen on her lover, Sir Peter makes a surprise visit to the future and transforms Cam’s twenty-first-century life into chaos of classic proportions. . . .
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